Chapter 1: I'm A Hockey Guy

I'm a hockey guy.  I played, I coached, I reffed but most of all and to this day I'm a hockey dad.  I fear those days are numbered.  For as long as I can remember, I've had as one of my favorite jobs and purposes to drive, support, fund and cheer as my son worked and played his way through the youth, prep school, junior and now college ranks.  I'm his biggest fan.  This role has been the target of much of my energy over the past eighteen years, ever since his mini-mite days at the age of four.  Occasionally there is pain, frustration, disappointment and heartbreak.  I'm talking about for me.  Lord only knows how it's been for him.  I'll let him tell that side of the story.

I'd never heard of hockey.  I was twelve years old.  I grew up on a farm in the Florida panhandle.  We played football in the fall.  Basketball in the winter and baseball in the spring and summer.  We hunted, fished and played army.  I was pretty sure I would play football at FSU or the University of Florida some day.  

That is until my dad ruined my life and moved us to Connecticut in the summer of '67.  I'd just finished the 6th grade.  I thought my life was over.  I left all my friends behind, including my girlfriend, Becky Messer. Becky was a dream.  I was shy.  It took me since the 1st grade to finally get the nerve to be her boyfriend.  I was in love with her from the first day I set eyes on her on my very first day of the 1st grade.  I specifically remember my mother saying goodbye as she left me at Mrs. Kates' 1st grade class room.  I had a lump in my throat and was on the verge of tears....then I saw Becky and all was good.  Bye Mommy!

But alas, poof.  Off to Connecticut.  I told myself it was only temporary, but it soon became evident it was over.

That first summer in Connecticut was spent in a rented beach house at Gulf Beach in Milford.  I made a few friends.  We swam in Long Island Sound.  We played baseball every chance we got.  I spoke to Becky every Wednesday night at 7pm.  Soon the calls ended and I've never heard from her since.  Every so often I check on Facebook, but nothing.  I'm sure that young beauty that I lost is a big fat momma living in a trailer park somewhere.  My curiousity remains.

*(Update- Since I wrote this, I have reconnected with Becky.  She's married and living in Virginia. Her daughter lives very close to where we live in San Diego.  I had a chance to meet up with Becky and her daughter last year.  I was wrong.  She's a lovely person, did not get fat and I'm so happy to have been able to close that loop.)

At the end of the summer my parents bought a house in West Haven, the next town up the coast.  It was a cool house, made of slate rocks and redwood.  It was split level and sat on the shore of Lake Phipps.  We had a row boat.  We bought a canoe.  Plenty of time was spent fishing, swimming and rowing around the lake.  

There was no shortage of kids in the new neighborhood.  My first friend was Michael McDermott.  His family lived on the other side of the empty lot that separated our two homes.  Mike and his younger, red-headed brother, Timmy were the kids of Ed and Barbara.  Mr. McDermott worked at a funeral home.  I suppose he was an undertaker, but I really have no idea what he actually did there.  

My other friend in the neighborhhod was Mark Steinberg.  We called him Steiny and later, Bird.  We, along with other kids in the neighborhood played a lot of touch football on the small "green" nearby.  This patch of land was on a slope and had a huge cedar pine right in the middle.  It's a miracle no one got hurt.  But isn't that the case with much of what we did as kids.

Continuing my promising football career, I went out for midget football that fall.  I played for the team sponsored by the Armstrong Rubber factory.  I earned the moniker "the man with the golden hands".  Once I caught a long bomb from Pete Riccio and scored a touchdown.  They announced someone else's name over the PA system.  My mom straightened that out immediately.

As the weather turned cold, my first winter approached.  Mike McDermott was at my house and he noticed I had a table top hockey game still in the unopened box that it came in.  It turns out Mike played hockey and from that moment on my life would never be the same.  He immediately began to pull me into his world.  

Keep in mind, I'd never seen anything related to hockey in my life other than this hockey game.  For some unknown reason the Christmas before we left Florida, my parents(or Santa?) got me this game as a gift.   I have to ask them if they recall and what were they thinking that  would have them get this game for me.  I was confused when I saw my first hockey puck.  As far as I knew it should have been large enough to come up to knee height.  That's how big it was in the table top game.  What was this little bitty thing?

So we opened the game.  We carted it back and forth between houses depending on whose parents minded less.  We played games.  We held tournaments.  We kept stats.  We developed plays...my favorite was where you push the right wing down his lane with the puck then from the corner he makes a pass to his centerman who is being pushed down the middle at the same time.  If you time it right, he jams it past the goalie with a one timer at the perfect moment.  The other play was to have that same right winger  rip a spin-a-rama slap shot from the blue line.  The men were made of metal, probably tin.  It was the Montreal Canadiens and the Toronto Maple Leafs, two of the six teams that comprised the National Hockey League at the time.  The players were flat with the face and uniform painted on each side.  We curved and angled the blade of their sticks so that when they took their slap shots the puck would angle up off the surface and often would find its way into the goal.  Top cheddar!  

And we fought.  Mostly Michael and I.  We were developing somewhat of a rivalry that would last through high school. There were numerous disputes, arguments and allegations of cheating that erupted into the two of us going after each other.....we never threw punches, but we fought.   Funny enough with one exception, in all the years that I would go on to play ice hockey I never fought.  Never had to.  Except once in Thursday night men's pickup, but that's another story.

This new and growing interest in the game that Michael McDermott played eventually spilled out onto the driveway where we played ball hockey.  Our equipment was tennis balls, welded goals, old worn down wooden, straight bladed hockey sticks which, if the nail had already fallen out, was worn down to a dangerous spear.   More tournaments, playoffs, scrapes and fights.  It's amazing no one lost an eye.

Schiavone PeeWees with Mike McDermott, John Glynne
and Kyle Bensen

Soon enough the hockey season was upon us.  Mike played peewee hockey in New Haven.  Mike and his dad invited me to go with them to the games at the New Haven Arena.  We would stay up late watching the Rangers on black and white TV, then wake up at 4:30 in the morning to get to his game.  This was my introduction to cold weather.  Nasty cold weather.  Too cold.  

Mike was a bit of an enigma.  He was introducing me to this new world...for that I will be forever grateful.  But he was a goofy kid.  So it was not easy to look up to him.  He had a chipped tooth.  A hockey badge of honor.  His team was Schiavone's.  Schiavone's was a wrecking company.  Bodies went missing from time to time.  You tell me!

Mike was ten or eleven at the time.  I was twelve.  He loved hockey, but he wasn't all that good of a player.  John Glynne!  Now he was a good player.  He was the best hockey player in the league, absolutely amazing to watch.  I was in awe.  He skated and carried the puck with grace..and boy could grace skate.    But I kid.  I would meet John Glynne again years later, first in our high school rivalry with Hamden High(Jonathan Quick's hometown) and again later in college where I would break his leg at the University of Vermont with a hip check.  He went on to have a minor pro career in the AHL and in Europe.  I hear it was derailed by drugs.

So I went to the games every weekend with Mike and his Dad.  Once I had a chance to go ice skating at Ingall's Rink at Yale.  I'd never skated in my life and it was not much fun.  I couldn't get going.  It made no sense to my brain.  I had no control of my feet.  Thank goodness for the boards.  

There was nothing about that experience that made me want to do it again.  I'm not sure where I got them, but I ended up with a cheapo pair of ice skates.  Winter was coming and the lake would soon be frozen.  Big deal though.  I couldn't skate.  I'm not even sure I wanted to.

Our house was a split level redwood and slate rock structure with an upstairs in the back overlooking the lake.  There was an open terrace upstairs above the kitchen and living area.  We've since had it enclosed and is now what we call, even forty years later, the "new room".  

One day late that autumn the terrace, which was covered in pebbles was submerged in a puddle from the rain.  It had no railing, just a flat top roof with nothing to protect you from walking or falling right over the edge to the ground below.  A cold snap turned the entire pool of rainwater into a solid sheet of ice....yay!  A second story skating rink with no boards.

I got my skates and put them on.  No one was home.  Just me, the skates, the ice and a fifteen foot drop.  

I shuffled onto the ice and waddled out to the middle.  I pointed one foot, turned the other and pushed.  I slid a few feet and tried it back the other way, making sure all the while to stay as far away from the edge as possible.  Well, just like that, I learned to skate.  It clicked.  The mechanics made perfect sense.   I would never be the same.

The dock in our back yard

Mike McDermott's house to the left

Soon thereafter the lake froze and we went out.  I had it down in no time.  I learned to stop, both ways.  I learned to turn, to skate backwards.  And I was hooked.

I bought a stick.  A Northland Pro, a heavy piece of lumber with a straight blade and as was soon to be discovered, it was held together at the toe with a nail. Next I bought gloves, then shin pads, a helmet and a jersey.  I sent away to the Gerry Cosby Company at Madison Square Gardens and got a #7, Rod Gilbert Rangers jersey.   I had to iron on the letters and numbers.  I spent many hours pouring through hockey equipment catalogs dreaming about getting new gear.

To be continued.....

Oy Vey

I grew up on a farm in the South.  The farm was an eight hundred acre cattle ranch, black angus primarily.  The South was the Florida Panhandle.  Flora-bama to some.

We were the only Jewish family in the county.  Mr. Sheinberg owned the shoe store in town. Apparently he was a single gentleman.  I have no idea how he ended up in Bonifay, Florida.  What ever you imagine a redneck southern hick town to be, that was Bonifay and then some.  We had a "colored" section of town.  There was a rodeo every October.  The parade for the rodeo winded through the one main street of town.  We had something called an "all-night sing" which was a gospel marathon that went all night long.  I remember being in homes where old grandmothers were quilting.  We fished and hunted. We spent time in the colored section at the home of our "help".  We referred to Anna as our maid.  But she was much more than that.  Anna was family, very much a parent in many ways.  I remember the smell of fried chicken and cornbread.  Grits and turnip greens.  Foods I enjoy to this day.

My siblings and I are all three years apart.  My older brother is three years my senior and my sister is three years younger.  We were shipped off to temple, or what we called Sunday school with Anna or one of the other babysitters who took care of us.  I have no idea why we went to temple on Sunday's. More often than not we went to Baptist or Methodist churches with my friends in Bonifay.  As I understand it, most activities in the Jewish religion occur on Friday nights and Saturday.  This was early and mid-sixties.  Our parents were busy with their friends.  We had our own lives.  Anyway, we would head off to Sunday school about an hour away every Sunday.  I remember very little of the experience.  I remember none of the religious aspect of it.  I went until I was twelve when we ended up moving to Connecticut.

My father had been a cattle farmer since moving to Florida fifteen years earlier.  Ivy league educated, he had the option of going into the film and entertainment business where his father, my grandfather was the president of a large movie studio.  My parents were married and moved to Florida where my dad wanted to try his hand at farming. His wedding gift from my grandfather was the farm.  In addition he was a lover of jazz, specifically dixieland.  He had lots of friends from "up north"(the New York area) who would come down and visit for weeks at a time.  They would jam out in the barn until the wee morning hours.  Banjos and Basses.  Trumpets and Trombones. Drums and washboards.  Oh and kazoos.

So, after fifteen years of farming my father decided he wanted to move back north and become a full time musician.  He moved in the late spring/early summer of 1967 while we were still in school.  Once school let out we followed suit.  We moved to Gulf Beach in Milford, Connecticut for the summer until my parents found and bought a house on Lake Phipps in West Haven at the end of the summer.  I was heartbroken and angry to be torn from the comfort of my life and my friends in Bonifay. I held on to this anger for years until I had a chance to go back as an adult.  What was I thinking?  Getting out of there was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Anyway, back to the temple thing.  I never felt "Jewish".  If anything I was more "Jew-ISH".  I had Jewish roots and a heritage.  But it was not a part of my upbringing or my culture. My folks had no commitment to religion.  Anything we did was as a token for my grandfather who was both an Orthodox Jew and......well, let's be honest....wealthy.

And so it was.  I was 12, going on 13.  I would be bar mitzvah'd. This was not up for debate.  My entire understanding of the Jewish experience stemmed from a little movie my grandfather's company made called "The Ten Commandments".  So it was off to Rabbi Mirsky in West Haven for bar mitzvah lessons...Hebrew lessons?  I don't know.  Whatever, it was as foreign to me then as it is now.

I don't recall going to the Rabbi for that long.  I do remember, not understanding anything.  Not a word.  But before I knew it, I was planning my bar mitzvah.  My mom tells me that the Rabbi had to search Jewish law high and low to find a loophole that allowed me to be bar mizvah'd on a Sunday.  There we go again.  For some reason, probably because I had no idea what the hell I was doing, I wasn't able to have my bar mitzvah on a Friday or Saturday.

The day of my bar mitzvah was the single most humiliating day of my life.  All I recall is stammering through the Hebrew words, written in English on the page in front of me.  I had to wear a suit.  It was awkward and I was embarrassed by the entire affair.  I can still see the look of horror on the faces of my family and friends as I bumbled my way through the text.  To top it off, I, who had already been told many times how awful my singing voice was had to chant the entire service.  It was cruel and unusual punishment.  Not just for me, but for my parents, my siblings, my friends.  I can only imagine what Rabbi Mirsky was thinking.

I recently had the opportunity to visit my parents in West Haven.  They live in the same house on the lake where I grew up.  I was talking to my dad and I asked him, "Hey Dad, no details...please, but was my bar mitzvah as painful for you as it was for me.

My father is going to turn 84 this year.  His simple answer, with a chuckle was, "No fucking way!".

Thanks Dad.  That's pretty much what I thought.

So What's Not To Love?

A number of years ago I had a client who was a lawyer with the City Attorney's office. I'll call him David C.

David and I got along very well. He was a commodities trader. We spoke numerous times throughout the trading day and we would meet nearly every afternoon after the market closed for a five mile run through Balboa park.

We would speak right at the close of the market, then I would hustle over to the San Diego Athletic Club to change into my running gear. I'd then jog up to our meeting spot and we would set off on our run.

We shared many stories and conversations during those hour long runs. The topics of our chats ranged from Seinfeld to Sisyphus.  One day we were sharing war stories about our fathers. Mine was getting on in age at the time. His had passed away a few years ago.

Both of us had what you might call temperamental Jewish fathers. My dad, for example, had on a number of occasions lost patience with waiters in restaurants. I shared with David that I had many memories of following my dad as he lost his temper and stormed out of any number of eateries. The issue was always the same. My father would request his beer be served at the same time as the main course. Any time the waiter would bring the beer early my dad would get pissed and we would all follow in tow as he stormed out. It was his contention that this was the establishment's way of trying to sell him more liquor.

Now David told me his own story of his father's crotchety ways.

His father was a short stout man. Retired from owning and running parking lots in Los Angeles. In his later years of retirement he'd purchased a meal card at a local restaurant, also in LA. He paid $100 for ten meals. Half way through the allotted number of meals the restaurant owner, who was also an attorney informed the elder Mr. C that due to his rude and abusive behavior he was no longer welcome to eat there. The owner refunded the balance of the unused meal card, $50.

Mr. C demanded not only the amount offered, but the entire $100. The owner refused. Offended by this action Mr. C called his son, my friend and client, David in San Diego. Remember, David too, is an attorney.

David, knowing all to well his father's ornery ways curtly dismissed his father's claims and told him to drop it, he didn't have a case.

A few years later Mr. C passed away. The matter was all but forgotten.

That is until one night David was home watching TV. He happened to be watching The People's Court. You know…Judge Wapner and Doug Llewellen.

Dave sat there casually watching this cheesy show when all of a sudden his jaw dropped and his eyes bulged. To his horror and disbelief, like watching a slow motion train wreck out comes the now deceased Mr. C and the attorney/restauranteur for the next case.

David could not believe what he was seeing.

Judge Wapner proceeds to hear the case, first from Mr. C's side then from the proprietor's. if you've ever seen The People's Court you may recall Jydge Wapner always held a soft spot in his heart for the elderly. And so it went. The judge heard out Mr. C's side of things patiently then he turned to the younger defendant for his side. This guy starts going on about how rude and abusive his customer was and why he booted him from his place. The judge became irritated saying this had no bearing on the case and quickly awarded the case to Mr. C.

Upon exiting the court room Mr. C was met, as was the custom by the ever friendly Doug Llewellen. "So, Mr. C, congratulations. What would you like to say about this case and the verdict?"

My friend is sitting with his mouth wide open there in the darkness of his den as his now deceased father looks at the camera and says, "my son is a big shot lawyer in San Diego. He told me I didn't have a case and I should forget it."

I'd say David easily had me beat with this one.

I'm Going In

I'm Going In

My folks are getting along in age. They both turn 84 this year. Both are fiercely independent. My family, like most, is strange. At least from my perspective.

My dad recently tripped and fell on the walkway coming or going to get some leftovers my mom left in the car. Nothing broken. Banged his knee up a bit. He spent the next few weeks dealing with the aftermath. Water on the knee. Some fever and chills. Possible infection. There were multiple doctor and urgent care visits. Crutches were needed to get around the house including going up down the stairs.

I think this incident frightened my mom. She called me to discuss having me fly back to Connecticut. I think she was scared this may be the start of a decline from which there might be no recovery.

Fortunately he seems to have healed up pretty well. But the wheels were set on motion for me to come back to spend some time helping them out with other issues. One being providing home care tech support. The other dealing with some estate planning issues.

Yesterday I caught a flight to Boston, rented a car and drive down to stay at my sister's in Rhode Island. I got up this morning, walked on the beach with my sister, Rachel and her husband, John and NAIA. I took a Yin Yoga class and then headed down to West Haven, CT. I pulled over at a funky little seafood place and grabbed a lobster roll and a birch beer.

I'm heading to my parents house on Lake Phipps now. I'm going in. I'm not sure what to expect other than that this should be interesting. I'm here to help them with what ever they need help with.


As my brother-in-law said, "this is the beginning of a process".

These updates will be about family, aging, coping and eating.

I'll keep you appraised.

Its A Small World

It's a Small World After All

Driving home last night I found myself listening to a show on NPR about "coincidences". They had asked listeners to submit their stories of coincidences and after receiving thousands of submissions they were telling the more interesting ones.

The bigger question was; Do coincidences have any larger meaning or are they just happenstance?

There was a story of a guy who asked his friend, a girl, to text him a picture he could use as a sample screensaver for his new phone. She sent him a picture of herself as a 4 year old child from 18 years earlier. In the background of the picture was this guys grandmother. The photo was taken on the other side of the country where the girl was vacationing as was the guys grandma. Small world.

Another story involved a guy who was interested in asking a girl out. He randomly noticed a dollar bill he found with her name, Esther, written on it. He framed the bill and gave it to her on their first date. She looked shocked but said Nothing. Turns out Esther had previously, a few years earlier, been frustrated in love and decided to write her name on about a dozen bills with the thought that one day her soul mate would find one of the bills and return it to her. They've been married for 14 years. She only told him the story after they were married.

Finally there was a young couple planning their wedding. The groom to be was showing his future mother in law his old family photos. The mother in law said nothing but had realized she had once been engaged to the boys late father but turned him down because her father had arranged her marriage to another man. This happened to be an immigrant family where this wasn't that unusual.

There were other stories, but this report got me thinking about coincidences of my own.

I recalled a particular evening I once spent in New York City. I experienced a pair of rare coincidences that night. The thing about "the city" is that its huge and there are gazillions of people, pretty much all of who are strangers. Years ago I once ran into an acquaintance at a New York deli. Also, one time we were heading to a hockey tournament in the San Fernando Valley and as we pulled into our hotel parking lot we ran into friends who were visiting the Guggenheim Museum. Then there was the time last summer we were driving back from a hockey tournament in Phoenix and I bumped into an old friend at a gas station in the middle of the desert.

But New York City?

About seven years ago my business partner, Scott and I went to New York. We were being recruited by one of the major wirehouse brokerages firms. First class accommodations. They put us up at the W Hotel in Times Square.

The first evening we had drinks at the bar in the W. Scott, befriended the doorman. Pretty quiet night.

We had our meetings the next day and decided to head downtown for dinner. We caught a cab and took the forty block ride. I forget the name of the restaurant, but it was a fun place, buzzing with energy, good food and I recall it was noisy. I got a phone call from my wife early in the meal. In order to hear her over the din I took it outside to the sidewalk. (I just recalled the restaurant. It is Balthalzar on Spring St. In lower manhattan. http://yelp.com/biz/KgpOYAG-r_eDsQXFXt0nnQ)

A cab pulled up and a woman got out and inadvertently hit me with the car door. It was no big deal. It was really just a nudge but she was so sorry. She got out and profusely apologized. I let her know I was fine and it was no problem. We crossed paths a few times during the remainder of the meal and I would pretend to duck each time we crossed paths.

The meal ends. Scott and I decide to walk back uptown toward Times Square. We walked to Little Italy and had cannolis for dessert. Scott went to a tarot card reader and was given some interesting advice. Something about the letter M being very important to his future. Morgan Stanley was the firm recruiting us at the time. We took this as a sign. We ended up going with UBS.

Eventually we hopped a cab for the remaining twenty some odd blocks back to Times Square. We got to the hotel and went upstairs to the bar for a drink.

Remember, we are forty blocks away from the restaurant and it was three hours later. Near midnight. In New York City.

We get out of the elevator to enter the bar and who do we run into? The lady from the restaurant who hit me with the taxi door.

Small world. We say hello, have a good laugh and go our separate ways. Now I'm married to her. No wait, that's not what happened. I never saw her again. Or if I did I wouldn't recognize her anyway. So that was the first coincidence of the evening.

Scott and I headed downstairs. The W Hotel has a club downstairs. You have to go down to the street then go downstairs from there to enter the club. We get in line and Scott recognizes the doorman from the previous night. The one he'd "befriended" at the bar upstairs. The doorman recognized us and waved us ahead. So now we are in. He says he'll take us to the VIP section. Yay. Never been to one of those. He leads us through the dark club to an area cordoned off by a velvet rope. It was really dark.

It's midnight. In the basement level at a hip club. In the middle of New York. It's very dark. My eyes are still adjusting. The music is pounding. The only thing I recall seeing was the ample cleavage of a lady standing in line in front of us as we were entering the VIP section. As my eyes adjusted to the light I lifted my view to realize that the person attached to the cleavage was the (now ex-) wife of a good friend from San Diego. I looked to the left of her to see standing next to her was my buddy, a hockey pal. He was also my dentist and my son's roller hockey coach.

Of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world, they walk into mine.

So we all had a good laugh at the coincidence. Turns out they had a cruise scheduled with their teenaged kids but none of them wanted to go so my friends decided on a quick getaway to Manhattan…to come see me I guess.

So, there it is. It's a small world after all. Two coinkydinks in the big apple on the same night. I don't see any larger meaning in any of this other than having this story to tell. Cue the music. "It's a small world blah dee blah". Have fun getting that tune out of your head.

Piper's Tail-Can A Good Deed Go Unpunished?

It's Sunday afternoon.  We've been through a lot in the past week or so.

My wife and I were having dinner in Hillcrest last Friday.  We went into the dessert restaurant where our daughter works after dinner to say hello.  When we came out of the place we found ourselves standing on the corner next to a homeless man.  He was wearing a camoflauge jacket and a wool hat.  Nestled in his arm was the cutest little terrier puppy wrapped in a white towel.  I said to him, "cute puppy".  He came back with, "you want her?".  I told him no thanks and we crossed the street.

About a half of a block away, we looked at each other.  Kyle saw the look in my eyes and told me it was my call.  So we did an about turn and caught up with the guy.  I asked him if he really wanted to get rid of the puppy.  "Not for free...."  was his response.  We have a dog.  We love her.  We are happy with her.  We don't want or need another dog....but we just thought that we really needed to get this dog to a good home and she would have a better chance with us than with the homeless man.

Piper On Kyle's lap

I asked him how much he wanted for her.  He said $50.  No thank you.  I started to walk away.  I'm a terrible negotiator. But I wasn't negotiating.  I didn't want this puppy.  I was walking away.  He shot back with, "ok, you can have her for $30".  I gave him two $20 bills and took the little cutie in the white blanket he had her wrapped in.  I know, I'm a sucker...I was feeling charitable and did not yet realize this was a scam.

First picture in the car on the way home from  rescuing her

So we had a puppy....cute little thing. Not a lot of energy, shaking like a leaf.  But a little love.  We took her home and introduced her to our Golden Retriever, Roo.  Roo is six years old.  She was curious but not all that interested.  Puppy was "listless".  We have a neighbor who is a veterinarian.  She took a look at her and said she had worms but appeared in ok health.  

We started thinking about what to name her.  The first name Kyle came up with was Addie, then Piper.  We went back and forth.  My family had a Siamese cat named Addie, when I was a kid.  I liked the name and argued for that.  We named her Piper.

We put Piper in Roo's crate and she slept through the night without a peep.  The next morning, Saturday, I took her to the vet's at noon. They examined her, determined that she had worms.  Gave her a shot and a pill for it.  She got her 1st set of vaccines.  I was now out $200.

For the rest of the day, I told everyone I saw about Piper.  It was time to find her a home.  I posted pictures on Facebook.  When I ran into people with little terrier type dogs at the dog park, I told them the story and showed Piper's pictures.

Roo showing some interest in this little thing

All afternoon and Saturday evening, Piper showed energy, playfullness, appetite.  She had a couple of healthy poops.  That was a great sign.  It looked like the worm medicine was working just fine.  Again, she slept in Roo's crate through the night.

Sunday morning we got up and decided to head to one of our favorite breakfast spots in town, Village 631 in the East Village area of San Diego.  They are dog friendly and have great coffee.  We packed up Piper in a little basket with a blanket.  Roo hopped in the car and off we went.  When we got to the restaurant, people went gaga over Piper.  Everyone came and oohed and ahhed at what an adorable puppy she was.  We told everyone the story of how we rescued(bought) her from a homeless man on the corner of 5th and University in Hillcrest.

Anastasia & Scott meet Piper

One of the couples showed more than casual interest in Piper.  A cute couple fell head and heels in immediate love with her.  Just like that Piper had huge fans...more than fans..owners, parents, a forever home.  They had been talking about getting a puppy for a year and we were thinking, mission accomplished.  We did our intended good deed.  We rescued this little puppy from an uncertain life on the streets and got her into a loving forever home. Their names are Anastasia and Scott.  They are saints. They even paid me back for some of the cash I'd paid for the vet's visit.

Later on Sunday evening we were settling in for some fresh Downton Abbey. I texted Anastasia to see how the little pup was doing.  I received a reply that changed everything.   What had been up to this moment a happily ever after puppy tale, in an instant turned into a nightmare. 

The text said that Piper had been throwing up constantly and she was struggling.   It asked if I had gotten her tested for Parvo.  Parvo, the deadliest,  most frightening word any pet owner or pet lover will ever hear other than perhaps missing or hit by a car.  

Parvo, instant death.  Parvo, hundreds if not thousands of dollars down the drain.  Parvo, oh crap.  

I immediately felt grief for the puppy and just terribly that this nice couple we'd just met and was so happy to have Piper were now having to deal with this awful situation.   I know what they were feeling and worse, I knew what they would be going through.   We've lost two wonderful 

Pets to parvo.  One of the pets was a four month old kitten who contracted the feline version of the disease.   Three days and $3000 later with no relief but plenty of expense in sight we decided to have her put to sleep. 

I was certain this was Pipers and her owners fate, a quick painful death along with a pile of bills and an unbearable amount of heartache.  

Sharing germs?

Suddenly my sadness shifted to pure dread.  This disease riddled puppy, who we 'd rescued from this horrible man had spent two full days in our home. Roo's home. The Parvo virus is not only deadly,  and extremely contagious, it is also amazingly resilient.  The only way to get rid of it is to either throw away or bleach everything Piper came in contact with.  She was nestled on our laps and on our chests.  She slept for two nights in Roo's crate on her bedding. 

Roo is six years old and fully vaccinated.  She has been since we got her as a puppy.  But my fear took over and I was consumed with visions of her getting the disease and us having to deal with it.  I was petrified. Downton Abbey was on tv but I was frantically googling to find out the chances of my vaccinated, adult dog contracting parvo from a puppy. 

So there were two simultaneous worst case scenarios racing through my imagination.  I went online and scheduled appointments for both Piper and Roo at my vets for 9am. 

I took Roo in at 9 o'clock but Piper's mom couldn't make it at that time.  She, herself was sick and couldn't get there.  She was going to see how Piper was doing and bring her in later. 

So $271 later Roo was all tested and up to date with her shots.  It was only three days since she came in contact with Piper and we didn't even know for sure if the puppy even had Parvo.  It's possible this was all due to the worms.  It was all conjecture based on her behavior and symptoms at this point.   The vet assured me Roo was at very low risk of getting sick. 

Vet's Estimate for one night's treatment

I felt a bit better about Roo and I was hoping I'd hear from Piper's owners that she was doing better.  I was at Costco later that day shopping for new bedding for Roo's crate when I received this text. 

It was an estimate from the vet.  They took Piper to my vet where she'd gotten her shots on Saturday.  The vet tested her for parvo and determined she did have it.  The estimate, for the first night of treatment was nearly $1100.   It would be about $500-$800 for each subsequent night of treatment. 

I immediately called Anastasia.  She was so sad. She had fallen so deeply in love with Piper and now this.  They didn't know what to do.  They were quite amazing.  They had every right to be angry with me.  To put all of this back on me. But they didn't.  They took complete ownership of this entire mess. Piper was their baby and they were going to deal with it. 

All I could see was the bills piling up into the thousands to be followed by a not quick enough death.  There would be heartache, anger and debt. 

Piper, now Named Pumpkin resting at her new home

It's bad enough the disease is so horrible.  But to be compounded by the expense is just tragic.  I called the humane society and found out about an organization that will help out with the medical costs of pets. But it would take time to complete the forms.  Time we didn't have.  I immediately drove back to the vets office hoping to catch Anastasia or Scott.  I had offered to help with the expense. And the first thing I could do was to return the money they had given me to help cover Piper's original vaccines. 

When I got to the pet clinic they weren't there.  The clerk at the desk thought they had skipped town.  Great!  But this wasn't even close to the case.  Piper's new parents would never abandon her.  Scott had simply left to go get Anastasia at work.   I put the cash in an envelope and left it at the desk for them. 

They returned to the vets still not knowing what to do. They took Piper home. We were in touch all night by phone and text.  

Parvo home care kit: $200.  Mispelled Pumpkin

The next morning, Tuesday I got a text telling me they took her in to their vet last night and got an estimate that was about half of what mine had presented.  But later they took Piper to the most expensive animal treatment option on the planet, the 24 hour emergency animal hospital.  

Lo and behold, the vet there asked them if they would consider treating her with a parvo home care kit.  $200.   Wait, what?  That exists?   Hell yeah!   

Anastasia treating and loving Pumpkin

So they got her hooked up and have been treating her at home all week and she's been responding like a champ.  Suddenly this shifted back to hope and joy and love and caring.   It's now Sunday morning, a full week since the nightmare started and we are full of joy that this little critter is making it.   I've been getting texts and pictures since Wednesday that have each been happier and more optimistic than the previous.  

Healthy Puppy! Happy Parents!!

By the way they renamed her Pumpkin Waffles, Pumpkin for short.  That's what they had for breakfast the day they met her.  Pumpkin. Cute. 

So for now this has returned to being a happy story.  We aren't completely out of the woods, but Pumpkin is getting better, stronger and healthier each day.  

I heard a number of times when this turned south, that no good deed goes unpunished.  I refuse to accept that. 

Update:  It is May of 2016, over three years since this story first happened.  Pumpkin, Anastasia and Scott are all happily living in the Carribbean.  Pumpkin made a full recovery and has been a bundle of love and joy since day 1.  Happy ending!

My 76 Year Old Friend Running Around The World

Bob Rebello’s Worldwide Marathons For Kidney Cancer Newsletter –December 2012 

In memory of John Rebello

If you knew John you would have liked him

“He was a good son, a good brother, a good husband, a good father – and a good friend”

American Cancer Society’s kidney cancer statistics for the year 2012 About 64,770 new cases of kidney cancer [40,250 men and 24,520 women] will occur in the U.S.    Worldwide over 100,000 will die of kidney cancer and over 200,000 will be living with kidney cancer

The window of opportunity for me to meet my 1999 commitment to raise $100k for kidney cancer research by 12/31/012 is rapidly closing.  With only 14 days remaining I must raise $9,274.00 for me to meet the $100k commitment that I made to the team of doctors at the Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center who have dedicated themselves to finding a cure for kidney cancer.

As I was, when I started my charity in 1999, I am very confident that I will meet my commitment to raise $100k by 12/31/012. I am confident because of the fact that in just the last 2 years my charity has brought worldwide awareness about kidney cancer to over 9,500 people from over 100 countries and all of the 50 U.S. States. Over the last 2 years my website has had 7,000 visits from over 100 countries and all 50 US States; I have 2,400 followers on Twitter, and 190 followers on Facebook. I believe that within the 9,500 worldwide followers there are 188 generous and caring people who will donate $50.00 each over the next 14 days to get me to the $100k by 12/31/012. If you have already donated – thank you – If you have not donated yet I would appreciate it if you would consider joining the 1,149 people who have donated to this worthy cause over the last 14 years.

To Donate By Check:

Make the check payable to Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center and mail to:

Bob Rebello
1399 9th Avenue #918
San Diego, CA 92101

To Donate By Credit Card:

If you’d like to make a donation by credit card go to my website www.bobrebello and click on Donate

Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center’s Tax ID # is 042-103-881.

You can follow the donation status by going to my website [www.bobrebello.com], Twitter [http://twitter.com/bobrebello] and Facebook [http://facebook.com/worldwidemarathons].

The only other 1999 commitment that I have not met– but I will meet – is to run more training and race miles then the circumference of the earth [24,901.5] by 12/31/012. As of this date I have run 24,718 miles and I only need to run 183.5 miles over the next 14 days [13 miles/day] to meet my commitment. It is going to be very difficult for me to meet the commitment as my right knee that I injured in my May 2012 Copenhagen marathon has not healed yet. You can follow my daily miles run and how many miles remaining before I reach the 24,901.5 miles run on Facebook [http://facebook.com/Worldwidemarathons] and Twitter [http://twitter.com/bobrebello].

December 2, 2012 “Surprise Marathon” - St. Croix Virgin Islands Marathon  

On December 2^nd I finished my December “surprise’ marathon, my 19^th and final marathon for my charity, which was held on the beautiful Island of St. Croix, Virgin Islands. It was a very difficult marathon for me to finish due to my knee that I injured in the Copenhagen marathon in May. While I was in St. Croix I had the pleasure of staying with my good friends Larry and Louise Williams. I plan on finishing my St. Croix marathon story by the end of next week and when it is finished I will put it on my Blog and my website.

Listed below are my corporate sponsors who have generously donated their “Best in Class” products and services to help me meet my commitments. I greatly appreciate their continued support over the years – thanks to each of you - I could not meet my commitments without your support.

Corporate Sponsors: Asics, Riggs Creative Group, Road Runner Sports, National Franchise Services, Wigwam Mills, Medicept,

                                     Napolitano Real Estate, BluRose Media, Phase [n], Sole Luna Café, Enjoy,

Bob Rebello